Today is our anniversary. Yesterday running around each other in the kitchen for food prep, I stopped, looked at Craig, and said, “Besides following Jesus, you are the best decision I’ve ever made.”
One of the kids overheard, smiled, liked it. I explained that in terms of dailiness and life trajectory and overall contentedness, who I married influences more of my life than any other aspect except following Jesus. In my case, marrying Craig has added immense joy and wisdom.
I was early in my peer group to marry, and in the first year a friend asked if I liked being married. I paused, thought (early marriage is hard), and I stated, “I like being married to Craig.” That’s still true. The person my heard is bonded and bounded to – what a good man, what a funny human, what a talented musician, what a kind heart, what a loving husband, what a hard worker, what a tenacious thinker, what an amiable servant, and what a tremendously attentive father.
Last night I rethought my best decision ever statement because actually the quality of marriage, and I think probably any meaningful relationship, is the result of a million little decisions.
I chose and continue to choose to
- recognize what you do
- enjoy hearing about what catches your attention and your mind and your interest
- share experiences with you
- talk through differences
- consider your perspective
- guess you mean well even when the impact misses the mark a bit
- share meals
- take walks
- ask questions
- sing and dance
- to picnic at the beach
So the best decisions in life keep being decided in the mini-decisions of my life. I keep deciding you.